ROLE OF PARENTS :
Sri J.C. Chaudhry sir, Chairman and Managing Director of Aakash institution is sending message to parents about their role towards to make their child competent and successful:
In his words:.........
In a world, where competition is getting stiffer with each passing day, the pressure to outperform others may add to the rising stress levels in students. Parental involvement is, therefore, extremely important for a child to do well in exams. It is imperative for a parent to understand his/her child's mental, psychological and emotional state of mind. This understanding should be coupled with an unbiased mentoring, which may bring out the best in them. I believe, in your quest to give your child a sustainable career and progressive life, you should try to be a constant source of motivation for them.
"In fact, I feel parents should devote a reasonably good amount of time to their child, irrespective of their intellectual or academic background. A child should feel close, inclusive and get care from the parents so that he/she is free to ask his/her questions/doubts, as and when they arise in his/her mind.
Additionally, I believe it is equally unfair to compare the failure of your own child with the success of your other child. This may unknowingly create an irreparable difference between the siblings, which may further deteriorate the child's performance. Additionally, parents should also keep in mind that every child has his own way of learning and interests. It is the duty of the parents to identify the ways of learning of their children and mentor them accordingly.
It is imperative for parents to constantly motivate and encourage the child even when he/she does not perform well. Instead of reprimanding the child, they should spend time with them and understand the drivers that would encourage his/her internally to work hard.
Further, it is important for parents to observe what kind of a company their child is surrounded by. A peer group is said to have a great impact on a child's mind. As parents, you should help your child identify the right from the wrong. It is to be noted that a child picks up every good or bad thing from the surroundings very quickly and he/she is a good observer too. Therefore, it is also very important for the parents that if they have any differences between them, they should not be brought to the knowledge of the child. If they disagree on certain points, it should be discussed and sorted out separately in the absence of the child. As a regular practice, parents should also give a little time to ask the child about his/her studies, how they are performing in the class, etc. They should try to visit the school/coaching centre, meet the teachers to take the feedback about their child. This would keep them well informed about their child's behavior and performance at school/coaching centre.
Those students who leave their home and city and go to other cities for coaching, their parents should talk to them regularly to know about their well being & studies. They should listen to them carefully and motivate them every time. This will developa strong bond between the two and make the child psychologically satisfied, more confident and comfortable. This will always make them feel secure and connected with their parents. Moreover, it is not only the score in the evaluation or result of exam that the parents should keep in mind while brining up their child but they should be equally concerned about developing their other qualities as well which are equally important in life.
Having said that parents should understand that failure is one of life's most common traumas, yet people respond to it differently. Some may bounce back after a brief period of malaise; others may descend into depression and a paralyzing fear of the future. The role of the parents is to help the child bounce back by balancing their child's energies.
Now-a-days, the life of a student is like a ship in the sea without a compass. Just as the ship would not know where it is and where to go, same is for a child as he/she also does not know where he/she is going. So it will not matter which road to take to reach his/her destination. It is the dty of the parents to teach the child the need for a compass or mentor and the child should find or create a very powerful compass for him/her.
The parents should also empower the child to learn that every problem is a challenge and not a curse and that every difficulty is an opportunity. So, they should treat a problem as a challenge and an opportunity to grow and not as a curse.
Now-a-days, everybody has one or two children, therefore, the risk factor is very high and parents cannot afford to let their valuable possession go in a wrong direction in the absence of their care. It makes no sense to blame the child later if things grow worse because of lack of their care. I blame parents more in such cases than the child. So, communicate openly with your child. Discuss with them if they are facing any difficulty while studying. Sometimes, children suffer from complications that hinder their studies and as parents you need to be cautious.
- J C Chaudhry SIR
CMD AAKASH ENG. & MEDICAL ...
